Oct 30, 2018
What does marriage have to do with leadership? How do we develop a nurture a healthy marriage as we develop into effective leaders? And how does our leadership impact our marriage?
In the fourth episode in the Healthy Relationships series, Holly and I chat with our husbands, Zack and Scott, about how to develop and nurture a healthy marriage even when you’re wired very differently.
Holly and her husband Zack, a methodology and process manager, have been married for 14 years and have one son, Eli. Scott, the executive pastor of our church, and I have been married for 16 years and have one daughter, Kirsten.
For the full show notes for this episode, visit estherlittlefield.com/episode18.
These are insights the four of us have gleaned on how to develop and maintain a solid relationship with your spouse:
- It’s important to support your husband in his leadership roles by being encouraging, believing in your spouse, and listening.
- Make sure that you dream together. When your spouse shares a dream on his heart be a soft place to land by holding their dreams as gently as you would his wounds.
- Learn to encourage your spouse and talk them through any discouragement he’s feeling.
Here are several best practices to nurture your relationship when you’re wired differently than your spouse:
- Learn how your spouse is wired with tools like the Enneagram.
- Your marriage may look differently than those of your friends or parents and that’s okay.
- See you and your spouse as a team.
- Care less about traditional roles and more about what works for you and your season in life.
- Assess where your marriage is and make adjustments as necessary by perhaps adjusting roles and responsibilities.
- Keep working at it until you find what works well for you, your spouse, and your family.
How do you champion your marriage while not neglecting your God-given leadership potential?
- Pray. Pray for your husband.
- Remember that your validation doesn’t come from your husband but from God alone.
- Create your village of people who can speak into your heart and mind when your spouse can’t or won’t.
- Build him up and support him. This may decrease the fear he’s feeling about how you’re growing in leadership.
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