Sep 29, 2020
Are you a parent, grandparent, mentor, or leader of teens? Or do you want to gain leadership insights from parenting teenagers?
In this conversation, Holly and I talk with Connie Albers about thriving while leading and parenting teens. She shares many insights from her experience raising 5 teenagers as well as other lessons she has learned on her leadership journey.
Connie shares wisdom and insight on how to keep the heart of your teen, what’s more important than fixing their problems, and how to repair and rebuild a relationship that has been broken.
Even if you are not currently
parenting teens, this episode is packed full of valuable lessons
that every Christian leader can benefit from.
Key Points about Leading and Parenting Teens:
- Connie’s life & leadership [3:27]
- What led Connie to write her book about parenting teens [12:00]
- Keeping the heart of your teen [16:42]
- Listening to teens rather than fixing their problems [28:47]
- What to do when your teen shares something difficult or surprising [38:00]
- Repairing and rebuilding relationship with your child [47:40]
- Leaders are learners [56:00]
- Connect with Connie
Key Quotes about Leading and Parenting Teens:
- “In leadership, you have to be a great listener and you have to be perceptive.”
- “You don’t have to survive the teen years; they can be the most profound years of your parenting.”
- “Families are destroyed at the hand of unbending rules.”
- “When we want to keep the heart of our child we first have to maintain the relationship.”
- “Control is an elusive feeling.”
- “Surrendering has to do with letting go and trusting that what you have taught them is in their mind and in their thoughts.”
- “Our children aren’t problems to be fixed. They want a relationship.”
- “Two things your teens need: they need to be heard and affirmed.”
- “Tell your kids: I am a safe person. I am not going to judge you. I am not going to think poorly of you. I will be your greatest cheerleader. And then live it out.”
- “We can teach our children everything about God but we can’t force a relationship with God.”
- “God is not finished with your child’s story and he is not finished with your family’s legacy.”
- “It’s never too late; it's always too soon to quit.”
- “It’s not what you say but how you say it.”
Resources & Links:
Connect with Connie Albers:
Connie is a marketing and public relations professional with over thirty-five years of experience working in the nonprofit and for-profit markets. Connie equips families to navigate the seasons of life and parenting with her #1 ranked Amazon Hot Release book Parenting Beyond the Rules: Raising Teens with Confidence and Joy and through her blog ConnieAlbers.com. Connie also took a post at Social Media Examiner as the director of first impressions and managed volunteers for Social Media Marketing World.
She and her husband, Tom, have been married 35 years and have successfully homeschooled their five children, all of whom continued their education and graduated from the University of Central Florida on scholarship.
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This episode was originally published on estherlittlefield.com/episode119 on September 29, 2020.